Flying Solo: Selfishness vs. Self-care

As my colleagues at Roubicek and Thacker will attest, I am a Star Wars fanatic.  I love how archetypes and philosophical truths are blended with fantasy, fiction, and cool technology.  Next month another Star Wars movie – Solo – will be released.  Though many more things about the famous smuggler will be revealed in a few short weeks, I am confident that the overall message of the life of the character of Han Solo can teach us many things about how we meet our self-care needs in the context of relationships.  

In the original Star Wars movie (Episode IV – A New Hope), Han Solo is portrayed as a selfish, smuggler and scoundrel that only cares about himself.  After rescuing Princess Leia from the Death Star (mostly because of Luke Skywalker’s suggestion that saving a rich princess could be lucrative), he has the following conversation with Leia:

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How To Respond When Your Partner Needs Attachment Reassurance

There are moments in relationships that are more important than other moments.

John Gottman (The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work) talks about happy couples having a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.  The trouble with the ratio idea is not all interactions are equal in importance to the well-being of the relationship. Some moments are just more important than other moments. Some moments really impact the security of your bond....

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Thanks to Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD, a colleague in San Diego, for this wonderful post.